This niceness seems much more genuine because you appear like you don’t need help from everyone. So guys: stop trying to win the girl by being nice. Employees, stop trying to get the job by being self-deprecating.Act like you know your worth and then layer niceness on top of that. That is the winning combination!
But if you don’t have any self-confidence and you act very nice, then this can actually backfire: it starts to seem as though you want something and that you are being a creep in order to get it.Conversely, if you act a little less needy, if you can show yourself to be highly capable and impressive and then you chat to someone in a friendly and open manner… then people will be won over by your charm and your appeal.